How Important Is Physical Attraction? Answer: It Matters.

Let me ask you something. How important is physical attraction in a relationship? Is it possible to be in a romantic relationship without feeling physically attracted to that person? My current answer would be “no”. As I see it, physical attraction is not shallow. First comes lust and then love. Forget about love at first sight, it doesn’t exist. How can you love someone you don’t know? However, I know it’s possible to feel attracted to a complete stranger. So… why is society trying to teach us that our physical desires don’t matter? Why people judge you when you say they do?

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How Important Is Physical Attraction In A Relationship?

To be honest, I think this is a very controversial topic. First of all, are you thinking with your body or your mind? That’s the tricky part. Are you trying to appear sophisticated about the subject? Or are you trying to be real? Listen, both sides are legitimate. However, one answer tends to get higher praise than the other. And I’m here to set the record straight. Why do I get extra points for saying that physical attraction doesn’t matter?

Thinking With Your Mind

Those that say physical attraction is not important have a point. Physical beauty will eventually fade away. Therefore, what really matters is the inside of a person — their inner beauty. Well, I like this theory on paper… but I’m not so sure about it. What does it mean to love someone for their inner beauty and not their looks? That means we are with that person because of their personality and not so much for their physical appearance. However, is it possible to sustain a romantic relationship with someone we have no desire to have sex with? In this case, is that person a friend or a lover?

Thinking With Your Body

Now, those that say physical attraction is everything also have a point. Feeling drawn to someone because of their physical appearance is more than legitimate. It’s primal instinct and we just can’t help it. By the way, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Therefore, “one size fits all” policy doesn’t really apply here. So, you find yourself physically attracted to someone… Does that mean you two should be together? Of course not. However, physical attraction does give you an extra incentive to be with that person. Think about it.

Having said that, there needs to be a balance between the two. In addition, I’m going to be real here. Romantic relationships won’t last if there’s no physical attraction. It’s not only about having an emotional connection. Sure, companionship and security are nice aspects of a stable relationship. Nonetheless, there’s also need to “feel the hots” for our partner. Otherwise, what’s the point? If you’re in a romantic relationship, you want a lover, not someone who is just “nice”. So yes.. physical chemistry between two people is undeniably important.

By the way, physical attraction goes beyond looks. It’s a “je ne sais quoi” that draws you into that person. Sometimes, you might be standing in front of the most physical stunning specimen and feel nothing. Hey, nature has its mysteries. Let me remind you that our object our desire doesn’t need to have the perfect looks. They just need to look perfect in our eyes. Therefore, next time someone tells you that physical attraction doesn’t matter, you just shut them down with a big “Bullshit!”.

There you go, physical attraction is not shallow and it might the magic ingredient that keeps couples together.

P.S: If you don’t feel this way about your partner, then there’s something wrong with you: