First of all, I don’t see myself as a hopeless romantic. However, I do have a keen interest in our culture’s obsession with falling in love. So, have you found “the one”? Have you ever been in love? Before you say “yes”, think about the meaning behind the word. What’s is love? Do you know the difference between love, lust and infatuation? Well, I did some “digging” and I found some answers.
Hmm… Lust. What is it? In this context, Lust is often described as intense physical desire towards someone. Therefore, next time you lock eyes with someone you find attractive, remember: it’s not love, it’s lust. In other words, you are not in love with someone just because you find her/him “hot”. However, some people might disagree and call it “love at first sight”. Hey… let’s agree to disagree.
Infatuation is an intense feeling of attraction towards someone as well. As I see it, it’s a bit more complex than Lust. So, when you are infatuated you can’t trust your perception of reality. Why? Try to look at infatuation as a filter: it makes you see the other person through rose-coloured glasses. In other words, you’re enamoured with an idea, not the real person. With time, that “veil” tends to fade away and that’s when your relationship really begins or… ends.
Love is the most different of them all. Unlike Lust or Infatuation, Love is the least “superficial” of them all. When you are in love, you love the other person for who they really are. You see their flaws but… you accept them. However, can Love really conquer all? So… how do you feel about partners that “let themselves go”? Is it possible to sustain a romantic relationship with someone without physical intimacy? Having said that, Love sounds really good on paper but in real life… I’ll let you finish that sentence.
As you can see, there are some differences between love, lust and infatuation. If you had to choose one of the three, which one would you pick? I feel like Love would be the popular choice, the most preached and talked about. But to be honest, I believe we’re all secretly rooting for Infatuation and Lust as well. Yes, I do acknowledge that these two can fade away but they are so fun and exciting! Why wouldn’t we want the three of them in a relationship? Think about… Lust is wonderful, because it makes you feel alive. Infatuation is fascinating because it tricks your mind into believing that you’ve met the most wonderful person in the world. Finally, Love can change your soul, as you might never be the same once you’ve experienced it.