How Many Children Should We Have?

I always wondered about how many children should one have. I know that’s an extremely relative question, but there’s an ideal number. Just like marriage, you know? For instance, the typical: When do you see yourself getting married? When people are asked this question, many will probably say: “when I find an ideal partner”. However, back in their minds, many are secretly thinking: “before I turn 30, I guess”. Having said that, there seems to be an ideal number for children as well.

Let’s take a close look at these families:

the simpsons family

The Simpsons

family guy

The Griffins

bob's burgers family

The Belchers

What do they all have in common? They all have three children. That’s right! For some reason, media is trying to tell us: “the more, the merrier”. But is that really true? Let’s take a deeper look into how people generally feel about big and small families.

One child

In general, being a single child is viewed as something negative. General conception: these kids never have happy childhoods, they are narcissist and don’t know how to share. In addition, they tend to have weak social skills, because they grew up without the “siblings experience”.

Two children

The most common scenario. I speculate that many parents choose this option to avoid the single child stigma. Maybe in their minds, it’s best for their children to have at least one sibling. In this case, having two kids is more socially acceptable than having one, and more financially affordable than having three or more.

Three children and more

This is the type of family that media seems to love. However, it might be the most stressful type. I mean mentally and financially. Can you image raising three or more children? I’m not talking about taking care of their physiological needs: feeding them, dressing them… No. I’m talking about teaching little creatures into becoming decent human beings. Perhaps that’s why we have so many degenerates in the world, their parents did not raise them right.

As you can see, there are pros and cons for having less and more children. In my opinion, two seems to be the optimal choice. When a child only has one sibling, they don’t have much of a choice but to love them — less fights, less headaches. In addition, the financial aspect is also very important, but rarely discussed. Wouldn’t it be irresponsible to bring all these children into the world and not have the financial to support them? Think about it.