Why Is Slut-Shaming Counterproductive

There are certain social phenomena that never cease to amaze me with their stupidity and “slut-shaming” is one of them. Let’s see how Wikipedia defines it:

“In human sexuality, slut-shaming is a form of social stigma applied to people who are perceived to violate traditional expectations for sexual behaviours, commonly applied to women and girls.”

Hmm… interesting. So what one needs to do in order to be qualified for slut-shaming? There are many things apparently, it will happen whenever someone:

  • violates accepted dress codes by dressing in perceived sexually provocative ways;
  • has premarital, casual, or promiscuous sex;
  • requests access to birth control;
  • is raped or sexually assaulted.

What?! This doesn’t make any sense, shut it down! First of all, f*** dress codes because it doesn’t take a genius to see that everything in life is relative. For some, walking around with no socks can be viewed as being sexually provocative. Second, why should one be “censored” for having premarital sex? Who buys a car without being testing it? Third, why would you slut-shame someone for requesting access to birth control? I think they should be rewarded for being responsible and educated. Finally, the last one really blew my mind in the most negative way possible. How do even comment on something so idiotic?

Does anyone have a clue why “slut-shaming” is so popular? I have. It makes insecure people feel better about themselves. Yes, I said it. If you are a secure person and busy with your own life, why would you bother using some your precious time to criticize someone else’s personal life choices? If you care about it, then you should get a hobby because spare time is an invaluable asset and should be spent in something more productive.

amy schumer star wars gqIn my opinion, this phenomenon is more directed towards women than men. When a woman is slut-shamed, the intent is to degrade her image and self-esteem. Having said that, I doubt that slut-shaming has the same effect on men. Can you imagine calling a man a slut? He’ll probably laugh about it.

The only good thing about “slut-shaming” is that it doesn’t discriminate, anyone can be a “shamer” or a “target” regardless of their gender and age. Other than that, the act itself is simply counterproductive. Why? Think about it, if you are a woman that shames another woman because of her “personal lifestyles choices”, what does that say about you? I think Madonna was so right when she said: “If you don’t like me and still watch everything I do. Bitch, you are a fan.” Whenever you slut-shame someone it won’t make look better than the other person, it just makes you look petty and that’s not sexy at all. Remember: “What Susie says of Sally says more of Susie that of Sally.” Now, if you are a guy slut-shaming a girl, that might not a wisest thing you can do. What do you think you’ll get out from it? If you trying to get laid, that kind of attitude will get you nowhere. If a woman is comfortable with her sexuality and willing give some of her “goodies”, why should a man hate on her? If a woman doesn’t give it away, she’s too difficult. However, if she’s giving it away, then she’s too loose. What?

Having said that, I must say that slut-shaming is simply counterproductive: everyone looses in the end.

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