Today’s post is dedicated to my dear friend “Envy”. Raise your hand, if you have never experienced it. No one? That’s what I thought.
First and foremost, I addressed envy as a “friend” because if you think about it: she has always been there, especially during the our darkest moments. Now, just because I said “friend”, that doesn’t mean she’s a good friend… In many ways, she’s more like one of those people that we hang out with occasionally… though, we shouldn’t.
If feeling envy is normal from time to time, when does it start to become abnormal? As I see it, envy is pretty much like a double-edged sword. On one hand, it can motivate us to be more proactive towards pursuing the things that we want. But on the other hand, it can become really destructive and deprive us from feeling joy for others. That’s the scenario we want to avoid. If you can’t feel happy for other people (especially your friends), then your envy is pathological.
Can my “pathological” envy be cured? Most problems in life have a solution, but you really need to be willing to work towards them. Here are some tips to feel less “envious” about others:
Be Grateful For What You Have
Though there are still many milestones for you to conquer, do not forget to enjoy the ones that you have conquered so far.
Focus On Your Own Marathon
It’s not about running against other people. If life was a marathon, then people should be running against themselves. If you always compare your success to others, you might not find what you are looking for.
Re-evaluate Your Life Priorities
Envy means that you want something that don’t you have, which is causing you to feel anger or resentment towards the people that have it. But are those things really that important?
Be Happy About Other People’s Success
It’s in your hands to choose between feeling envy for other people’s success or use it as a motivation to succeed in the things you want. Hey, if they did it, so can you.
Stay Away From Other Envious People
If are a pathologically envious person, the worst thing you can do is to hang out with other envious people. No good can grow from darkness.
Now that you know what can be done to “shake away” those bitter thoughts, it’s time to talk about: how to deal with envious people.
Sometimes, it’s not possible to simply cut-off these people from our lives. I mean, it’s hard to cut-off work peers or relatives because you probably have to deal with them on a daily basis. However, it’s possible to alter the way how you “digest” their comments. What are you talking about? It’s in our power to accept their negativity or not. So, here are a couple of things that you can do in these negative situations.
Keep A Safe Distance
When cutting off envious people is not an option, you can always keep a safe distance from them. Be cordial and do not engage with their negativity or drama.
Stop Trying To Please Everyone
Why are these “haters” bothering you? Let me tell you something: it’s impossible to please everyone around us. Therefore, do yourself a favour and stop it.
Address The Issue
If ignoring the envious voices is not an option, then address the issue. Just reach out to these people and let them know what they are doing is not right. However, be prepared in case they don’t acknowledge your feelings. Just let them know, then let it go.
Live Life To The Fullest
Take control of the situation. “You do you” and that’s all. There’s no bigger slap in the face to your haters than your own happiness. Just because they are miserable, why should you be?
As you can see, haters are going to hate. Therefore, don’t forget to be kind to yourself and others. You don’t want become part of the problem.